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The certified biblical counselor and long-term missionary Dr. Anne Dryburgh describes in biblical terms what secularists call ’emotional abuse’. From his long experience he explains how an abusive parent relates to a child, and the effect on the child. His book will help you discover how to live the deep truth that in Christ you have everything, including everything to cope with your childhood experiences.
How To Deal With An Emotionally Abusive Parent
‘He helps us understand, through the lenses of Scripture, the lingering effects and current effects of parental mistreatment of adults. He offers biblical help and hope for those who believe their past is holding them back from living fruitfully in the present.
Signs You Have Abusive Parents
‘Constantly Anne refers to the Scriptures and more, to the true and living God of the Scriptures, for hope and healing’
The goal of this book is to help you realize that if you have suffered emotional abuse from a parent, you can live in the truth that in Christ you have everything you need for life and godliness (2 Peter 1:3; Ephesians 1:3). In Christ you have everything, including everything to deal with your childhood experiences. That seems crazy when you think about the suffering you went through growing up. It also seems crazy when the lasting effects are clearly affecting who you are, but this book will help you learn how to live the deep truth. We will learn what secularists mean by emotional abuse, how it is understood in the Bible, what it looks like in how a parent’s relationship with a child, and the effect on the child. As we look at these effects, we will also look at what is true about being in Christ and how you can live based on who you are in him. We will meet Laura in several chapters, hear about what she suffered, and how she learned to see who she is in Christ and graciously deal with her parents.
Because this is a short book not every question about emotional abuse by parents can be answered. It cannot cover all the practical issues you may be facing, nor does it present everything the Bible teaches on the subject as that would require a longer book.
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Verbal Abuse: Definition, Types, Signs, And Effects
When we think of the word “abuse,” we usually think of physical harm. But sometimes, the most damaging kind of abuse isn’t physical — it’s psychological. This type of emotional abuse can be especially damaging when it comes from a parent or guardian.
Parents rarely abuse their children. Many times they may not even realize that they are being emotionally or psychologically abused. Sometimes parents make what they believe to be “harmless” comments that come across as invalid and hurtful.
You probably grew up hearing things like, “If you don’t behave, no one will love you,” which made you feel unlovable when you didn’t fall in line. Maybe your parent was abusive by being “too close for comfort,” constantly telling you that you were their favorite child, keeping you and your siblings at bay. Or maybe, in an effort to keep you “healthy,” your parents made excessive comments about your diet and weight — something they may continue to this day.
Although these “harmless” comments may be well-intentioned, with repetition, they can become extremely hurtful and often emotionally abusive. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), psychological abuse in childhood can be just as damaging as sexual or physical abuse in the long run.
Mother Requesting All The Information On My Therapy Sessions As My Old Therapist Got Social Services Involved Due To My Parents Being Emotionally Abusive.
To shed some light on what exactly are “harmless” comments, we turned to our mental health community. It is important to remember that what may seem “harmless” to one person may actually be hurtful or abusive to another. No matter what anyone says, your feelings are valid, and you deserve support.
“‘Children are meant to be seen and not heard.’ Appearances matter and my thoughts, emotions and opinions do not.” — Keisha D.
“When I was young, my mom and dad said so much—I didn’t even know where to start! But I’m going with the one that causes the most damage. ‘If you don’t behave, no one will like you or love you.’ Until now, about 40 years later, I still believe that I am not wanted and not loved especially when I have done something wrong.” —Tammy Z.
“‘You’re not the son I want.’ My mom always said this. I’m adopted, so it’s heartbreaking and makes me even more sad and worried. I don’t talk to him anymore. If I don’t want to, I stay away.” — Benedicte V.
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“This seems like good advice, but I grew up keeping everything to myself, and trying to help everyone. When someone did something nice for me, I felt obligated to reciprocate, not wanting to be a burden, thinking I am a burden.” — Florence N.
“You’re being a drama queen” every time I express any emotion that is not pre-approved by my stepmother. I suppressed my emotions until now because of instilled fear. ” — Leah L.
“Throughout my childhood whenever I expressed emotions, I was told I was being ‘too dramatic,’ so when I was abused and attacked, I couldn’t tell my parents because I was ‘being too dramatic.’ has affected me my whole life and I really struggle with expressing my emotions because of it.” — Natasha A.
“‘Sometimes I wish I never had you.’ My mom is to me and my brothers and sisters.” — Christina F.
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“‘You are my perfect child.’ My mom would tell me that she favors me more than my four siblings.” — Brooke L.
“‘Why can’t you be like your sister?’ We are two very different people. If it wasn’t for the fact that we were alike, you wouldn’t think we were in a relationship. My Mom was very controlling of my appearance until I was able to work and do what I wanted. He lost control. The insults I used to start [back then].” — Sarah W.
“‘You can choose to be happy, you don’t want to.’ From my mom when I was trying to get help during a suicidal episode.” — Darian K.
“When my mother told me every time I had episodes of depression: ‘You should be thankful. You survived college. You have plenty of food, money and shelter. We have you. Your brothers and sisters girl really loves you. So, no one should be depressed! You’re just brokenhearted because the one you want just rejected you.’ Yes, it doesn’t seem to hurt anyone, but for me, even though I have everything, it’s still there the [depression] and it’s not going to go away like that. I’m sorry.” — Pamela J.
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“My Mom always said, ‘You’re the saddest young person’ that ever lived.’ She said this on my wedding day. To which I replied, ‘It’s OK because after today you don’t have to worry!’ A few years later I confronted him about it and he said, ‘Well I’m just kidding, can’t you tell I’m kidding?’ I’m still young. How should I know?” – Marsha S.
“‘It’s just a phase.’ Mom talked about my panic attacks that I’ve been having since the adoption and until now. When will this ‘phase’ end?” – Elizabeth M.
“‘You are a woman now. You know what that means, right?’ — my dad, when I got my first period at his house at age 9. Followed by, ‘You must have filled your bra…’ Every week after that in the next three years. — Kristy B.
“‘Write your age, not your IQ,’ said right in front of my friends when I was 11 years old. It broke my heart.” — Carre L.
Things People Don’t Realize You’re Doing Because You Had An Emotionally Abusive Mother
“I was told that I ‘threw things’ (either in the kitchen or in my handwriting, etc.).” — Jane B.
“When I was young (and even as an adult), every time I got up the courage to tell my mom what I felt she did/does, she would say, ‘That’s crazy’ and continue talking to me. why can’t I feel that? It made me feel bad then and makes me feel worse now, so I stopped telling him things.” — Jen D.
“‘I don’t think you have the skills for that career’ or ‘Are you sure? That career is very difficult, ’ my parents when I was young and my in-laws. I’m having issues right now finding a career path that I really want because I keep repeating what they say…” — Kachina M.
“My mom when I told her I wanted to be a makeup artist: ‘You really don’t handle people well. Maybe a nice table
